The Ideal Partner
In any conversation—regardless with close friends or strangers—the issue of having a boyfriend will come into the picture. Being Suemae, I will give them a straight answer on my status and if asked, the details too.
Are people that lonely? Or do they just fancy a good love story? I think it is important that man and woman should be united and there is a need for the other half, however, I try my best not to put too much of my time and thoughts on the popular notion of dating and love.
We all have an ideal partner. That tingly feeling you get inside might be some chemical reaction of the hormones, but I would say that the person who you “fall in love” with is highly due to the feeling of familiarity they strike in you. Taking Freud stand, a boy is attracted to his mom (being the only woman he is in contact with at that time) and would find a girl who displays qualities of his loving mother. The more persons of the opposite sex the person encounters through life, more qualities will be added on in his or her search for her ideal partner. Somehow, the person you choose would carry attributes and characteristics of someone you are close or familiar with.
There is the possibility where we tend to choose someone who is totally opposite from the people we know. Well, this is because there are some unfortunate souls who have many bad encounters with people of the opposite sex. OR humans are also easily attracted to something new and out of the ordinary. Not to forget, the media do play a large influence in what is being potrayed to us as the ideal, in the popular sense (looks, weealth, prestige…). But anyhow, we still base our selections for partners or even friends, on the basis of such familiarity. Our ideal partner will be the one who presents the most and best attributes of those we have encountered in life—great sense of humor, caring, kind, out-going, someone who can cook, etc.
So, if this theory really does support itself, I reckon that it is the same reason why my choice in guys are very… exquisite, thanks to all my guy friends I have known since I started walking. At least, I know for sure what kind of a guy I would like to have a relationship with that lasts through courtship, marriage and forever.
Technically, everyone has the potential to be the ideal partner for someone. However, what matters is whether he or she is aware of that potential, and whether he or she is willing to work towards that. It is the process of maturing and finding their identity—a process of sharpening all their skills and talents, as well as polishing their character and personality. I will not hound on my best pals hoping that they will be “THE ONE” for me, but I dare say that they all have the potential to be the best boyfriends, husbands, and fathers of children to someone, and maybe, me. I will just leave them to discover their potential and when the right time comes, I might just fall for my best buddies!
I am not a person who conforms and compromise. I know what I look for in my ideal partner but I still would give a chance to anyone who is willing to try. It would be great to embark on a journey to discover all the potentials we have together. Nonetheless, as much as I do respect and love each person I meet, I would not waste my time prying every guy or throwing myself out hoping by trail and error to get the one. Desperate I may seem at times, but I do not have that kind of time and effort to waste.
At the mean time, I choose not to preoccupy my time in longing for some guy to sweep me off my feet. All I know for sure is that I should be prepared to woo the heart of the guy who knows what he wants in a woman.
